Not me but my partner - her parents were absolute monsters. She hadn't seen her parents for over 40 years because they disowned her, but (when we first started dating) she still talked to them on the phone once a week (the phone calls made her physically ill each week) - finally she stopped the calls but heard her father was sick - her mother told her brother to tell her she couldn't come to see her father (which she wasn't planning on really but to be told she wasn't welcome was not fun)-he died and her mother smashed all his stuff or gave away anything the offspring might want. Then her mother got sick and her therapist spent a lot of time talking about what a terrible idea it would be to go to the mother before she died.