(((((sally))))) I’m sorry that you’re so unhappy now. Marriage is hard work, the easy times are few and far between. It sounds like you’re both suffering. Is it possible to seek counseling? I know the short easy answer is to leave. But the problems you’re facing now will present themselves in your next long term relationship as well. Your sex life is going to get stale in a long term relationship, unless you work to freshen it up. Chances are in the next long term relationship, you and your partner are going to be in different stages in your life as well. I’ve never met a couple yet that grew at the same pace.

I’m not trying to talk you out of leaving, I just want you to understand that if you do, and you haven’t learned anything from this relationship, all you’re doing is putting a band-aid on a broken leg.

I would have a problem with the cheating. But I really would suggest you both go to couples counseling, if for no other reason than to clear up some of the baggage that you’re carrying.

I wish you luck and happiness with whichever path your choose.