I'm sorry you and your family are going through this, it must be very challenging and exhausting. Set a timeline with a firm deadline/date--your husband needs to get himself in order by the date you set. In Order means, he needs to regularly see a therapist, take the proper medication, contribute to the family and help with your children, etc. Depression is real, but he still needs to take care of himself so he can contribute as a Husband and Father.