Maybe just start with that? Learning how to answer those questions. They're good questions to learn how to answer. I know I struggled with knowing how to answer them. They're not easy questions even if they seem easy. And how do you know the answers if you don't know the options. Even I still struggle with "what do you need" sometimes, and I know my options with L. For me, I try to be small and not ask for things so that I'm not a burden and therefore she won't leave me. AND I have also learned that if you don't ask, you don't get help.

Maybe you can ask her how to answer those questions?