@jesyka, anything that challenges an abuser will cause the abuser to react poorly.

I had asked my ex abusive husband a very simple non-threatening question once about a hair brush. I asked him why he was telling me he would take it to work versus asking me if he could take it since it was my hair brush. That one simple question caused him to erupt and explode in anger and rage, accusing me and berating me.. it caused a HUGE fight unnecessarily.

Any innocent question or remark that challenges or displeases the abuser will set the abuser off. He takes it as a threat to him. An abuser does not respond or react in normal, expectable, reasonable, and fair ways.

You cannot control that at all. You cannot change or control another's behaviors or reactions to you.

I eventually stopped talking to my husband and walked on eggshells around his explosiveness.