He is a jerk, just going by what you posted about him in the past. There’s no way to explain why jerks do what they do. He just isn’t a nice guy going by your posts

Having said, that sometimes it’s about delivery and also depends on what we comment about. I’d probably feel some type of way if my husband said “please use less perfume”. He never would. We don’t speak to each other this way. I am not a kid. It sounds like a directive: please do your homework. Lol

I’d also not like if he asked if I paid my bill. Again I am not a child. We set most of our major bills automatically. But then we have our individual bills that we both pay individually. We don’t ask each other if the other person paid their bill. It’s implied that bills get paid. We are adults. Is there a reason he needs to be asked if he paid a bill?