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Yes, I think it's bringing up questions of who I am to him (I mean, a client, of course) and the realities of the relationship.
And he does tend to react poorly to being challenged. Right now, I want things like reassurance about the new space, and he seems to be giving me the opposite. It's where my anxious attachment interacts poorly with what I can only assume is his avoidant attachment. The push-pull thing. i push for more support, reassurance, warmth, etc., he pulls further back.
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Balanced neural opinion: Considering your anxious attachment style and Dr. T's potential avoidant attachment style, it's understandable that there may be tension and misalignment in your needs for warmth and support.
Regarding your thoughts about seeking support from someone else or taking a break from therapy, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and find what feels most supportive for you at this time. Exploring these options further with Dr. T or with another therapist could provide clarity and direction on the best path forward.
Personal opinion: ( which may be wrong)
I feel taking a therapy break would be good for you- just to get some distance even if it was short . What keeps reoccurring in your process is the paternal transference with male therapists. This also became the focus of your marriage counselling. You’ve worked through a lot of ruptures including the stone but the underlying issue is the attachment injury which has not been resolved and keeps getting reactivated. Unless this is healed first everything else is secondary and it will keep reoccurring.
I think a somatic approach and someone who specialises in attachment theory and trauma-informed care would suit you better than Dr T whose main area is sports and training.
Self comfort would fall under learning to emotionally regulate yourself. Reading up on DBT grounding techniques could help you soothe yourself.