What about attending family events? How do I handle and deal with it? My cousin's daughter, whom I call my niece,is graduating from HS next week... I'm in a bind.

We proposed 3 options:
- I go alone, stay with mom and potentially see my sister
- We both go, my husband thinks there will be a disastrous outcome like more drama or fighting
- We don't go at all, and my extended family gets really suspicious and blames me. Making me look bad. I get interrogated by everyone, my mom and sister talk smack about my husband. I'll probably have to reveal the real issue and conflict to my extended family.

My sister told him, my husband, that's he not family. So I just don't know.