Just on this point of too much cologne, you know, I can see how under stressful relationship circumstances asking a spouse/partner such a question, could trigger a negative response unfortunately. But, no, you weren't wrong to ask him that question, obviously it's up to him how he chooses to reply. To me, you should be allowed to tell him it smells bad too, that's useful knowledge if it's coming from a lady, in my opinion... Wishing you guys more peace jesyka.🙏