Exactly what I was thinking, word for word on the "walking on eggshells" part. My kinda roommate's bf is like that, and I'm trying to get her to leave him because I see it's just not right. He even treats me like crap. Tells me something offensive, I say something I don't feel is overreacting, then he says stuff like "you're crazy, I didn't say anything like that, stop twisting my words." And that's just to me. I can only imagine what he does to her behind closed doors.

From my experience in relationships like that, it doesn't get better. Hell, if the dude is REALLY no bueno, it just escalates and escalates and one day you find yourself in some serious danger.

I don't care how much you "care for him," or feel the need to keep the marriage going because you committed to him. He's causing unnecessary stress through mental abuse, and you have to get away from him.