I know no one's going to answer this because this subforum's dead, but I'll post it anyway because it's food for thought for me and maybe, just maybe, someone out there has a response.

Anyways

Is it a common thing for people with BPD to have someone with strong personality as a favorite person, repeatedly? Someone with solid, even rigid, opinions, values, and personality traits?

My first serious partner was a hardcore socialist and engaged in a lot of activism, very charismatic, loved Tool and Rammstein, was a fan of hallucinogens, creative, amongst plenty else.

Another FP of mine was a counselor at an IOP. Health-fanatic. Anti-drug (I was clean/sober for the four months we were on good terms with each other--longest I was substance free at the time). Into yoga-hard core. All of these she was very strict about and you could tell it was all ingrained in every inch of her being.

Now my partner, similar to my first similar partner, has very strong, but limited traits. Their whole personality is basically libertarian ideology, cooking, listening to 70s-80s jazz, and being an instigator for kicks and giggles.

Now of course I've adopted, so to say, these opinions/behaviors/interests as I have with pretty much everyone I've obsessed with over the past. I know this is because of the lack of sense of self and sorta using others to create my own identity. Is that why I like people who are more a lot of little than a little of a lot? And when I'm left to my own devices I think of myself of a lot of a little?