Are they codependent? All the books n carp are written for the codependent, not the dependent i.e., you. It sounds like their codependency is freaking you out a little? Are they trying to fix you, or are they just enjoying being with your wonderful self (im not being sarcastic).

Maybe this is a case of "you have to love yourself first." You know AA says no romantic entanglements while you are getting sober.

Its not good you think they are perfect. Do they think they are perfect? All that is unrealistic. Is some sort of counseling available? I dont like to see you alone.