I'm so sorry for your and your wife's struggles.

What do you do to meet your needs? Do you watch porn? Would that be a bad thing to do?

Do check out heypeers.com and also DBSA - Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance for support.

There are also online sex addiction support groups that you could look up.

I would also suggest Bessel van der Kolk (book The Body Keeps Score, also his YouTube clips about trauma).

I wish I could've been more helpful.