I had a deeply closeted acquaintance who had been married for 35+ years and had two children before finally getting together with a good friend of mine the last few years of their lives – at the funeral for the closeted acquaintance they had a video put together of photographs from her life – aside from her sons there were absolutely no photographs of men – all of the photos were of her with women which was hilarious to us because she had constantly denied being lesbian – she wasn't lesbian she was just in love with Jane