It doesn't matter what reactions other people have. Does it seem more appealing for her to deduce that you were abused rather than you pro-actively telling her? If we haven't been cared for or have been otherwise abused and neglected, someone taking the time to notice and piece together our fragmented experience/self/being can be a really powerful pull. However, in the adult world it will often leave you frustrated because the ultimate responsibility for the work rests with you.