This is slightly different to your question, but related to the memory lapse: my former T used to refer to me with my full name (which my mother uses), after about a year I asked her if she’d use a shortened version which I prefer. She never remembered. I reminded her a few times and then let it go. I had to stop seeing her as the sessions left me feeling awful, and looking back, I think that her memory was part of the problem. I now question whether she remembered anything from one session to the next. I wish I’d been more assertive in my sessions with her in challenging her, and probably it would have been better if I’d quit sooner.