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Originally Posted by Rive.
I don't see any instance where your fiancee "verbally attacked" you. What you are reporting is not accurate.
You are not seeing it but your behavior is aggravating a lot of this - e.g.
(1) You are at *her* house but do not greet her when she comes in. Instead, you went to hide.
(2) You physically pushed her when your partner is a big boy and can defend himself IF he chooses to. This was not your place to lay your hands on her.
(3) You keep searching for posts online to 'prove' to your partner that she hates you.
Etc.
How would you feel if these behaviors were reversed? What if SHE did not say 'hi' to you when she came to your place and went to hide in another room instead? What if SHE lay hands on you to physically push you, and so on. There needs to be more maturity on your and your partner's side, you aren't little kids anymore. You also need to live your life and stop speculating on what others may or may not do in order to 'prove' how bad they are.
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Hi. Thank you for reading my whole message, it was long and I do appreciate you taking your time to read it.
Regarding to your message I did felt misunderstood and sense of shame when reading it. The reason be and I will just put it in numbers as you did in your previous message so it's easy to read. 1) I don't know if you skip read. Though I did explain in my message the reason why I didn't say hi. I said how I felt uncomfortable and scared. And when she did say hi to me I was frozen in fear.
If I go in more detailed as to why I reacted that way. She was in a very bad mood! coming in. My pervious experiences with angry mum's is my mum. I'm taking about throwing a computer chair from upstairs to downstairs. If you approach her she would yell at you. So at that time I was reacting how I was taught and learn when someone is angry, give them space, don't talk to them and avoid. Because they will yell at you. At the time I didn't know I was reacting that way, only looking back I know. I hope that makes more sense.
2) So I told her first verbal to stop hitting him.
She stopped and looked at me and then continue to hit him. He was frozen like a ice cube! with his head down. So I got my index finger and middle finger to be exact, and slightly push her by pressing against front of her shoulder to stop. So it wasn't a big push if that was your imagining.
I couldn't leave my fiancee alone and be hit like that. That means I don't love him.
Would you leave someone to be hit and just walk away and be like "oh well".
3) Yeah I don't understand the last comment for number 3. Is that just a statement?
there seems to be a lack of understand and lack of empathy in your messages in how you communicate.