"One thing that is working is that I try to keep certain things to myself and not overshare."

^^ This ^^

But, I'd recommend watching what precendents you might be setting up with your soon to be live-in partner: in terms of housework, chores, and paying for expenses.

You might want to check out Suze Orman's appraoch to splitting bills... either through her books/podcast/articles or YouTube. It's food for thought.

I bring this up because I stupidly did most the housework, cooking, shopping and still paid 50% of the bills. I paid rent while he paid for the car which was in his name, so when we broke up, he had an asset and I had nothing. Don't make the same mistake I did.

Also, check out Natalie Lue's Baggage Reclaim blog and podcast to clarify that you and your partner share the same values, and not just common interests.