I’m so sorry that you’re feeling this way. In my own experience I was married for a year before I felt comfortable with sex. I honestly have never met a woman that had a pleasant experience the first time; the romance novels lie! In fact, sex was still painful for me until after my first child was born. The key to a healthy, happy sexual relationship is being comfortable with yourself and your partner.

In my case it took a time and patience for both me and my husband. Once I was able to fully trust him, things got much better. And once our son was born, sex was no longer painful and it became the great experience that it was supposed to be.