My Support Forums - View Single Post

eskielover · Jun 01, 2024, 08:49 AM

I enjoy getting together with friends when it works out. Wanting to be in touch with others is a good thing unless it consumes your thinking.

I had a friend who would call if I didn't & would ask if it was something she did & then try to make me feel guilty because I have a busy life & by the time I got done for the day with my farm & animals I really didn't want to talk on the phone for an hour. In her case I think it was a co-dependency issue, not really a weakness but an overall issue she had.

I enjoy connection but on my terms & on my time frame & I do love the peace & quiet of my farm with my fur babies & the wild critters that visit.

I have always been very independent growing up with dysfunctional parents I knew if I had a problem I needed to solve it myself because they were clueless. I was also an only child so I had no one else to talk with. I loved playing with the neighbors but also cherished my quiet times too.

Quote:

Yet here I am, lost many during all these years and I always feel as I‘m just living a meaning less existence.

I walked away from my past at 54 years old & really had no friends when I did, & just a 33 year bad marriage. What I have learned is that my existence is not defined by others or even my career but by what I choose to do with my own life & the values I hold strong to