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Originally Posted by Kahapati
There’s this underlying theme in most of my relationships with others (Except with my partner with whom I have a very loving relationship) That wanting to be in touch with others feels like weakness.
I‘m very sure this is an attachment thing, as I grew up in a violent household as a kid, and the situation was quite chaotic, with emotionally unstable parents, moving a lot and living with different people etc.
I remember (Grew up in South Asia) with my relatives there was this attitude of „You shouldn’t need others, you must not want others if you feel lonely“.
If you feel sad or in trouble, try to solve it by yourself.. and so on.
Thanks
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I can understand why you feel this way, people sometimes get chewed up when they are younger. It seems like the specter of that is impossible to escape. I say for that, Specter gets 007 (James Bond) as he is quite good at chewing them up. Wanting connection, is human, we all on some level yearn for it. when we have things that come into conflict with that it really causes trouble. I was fortunate as my trauma team managed to get this under control in me. I have some good friends, but I couldn't care less about Mum's family; Dad's is all gone. So me and my friends versus the world, it never had a chance. As far as you can't tell anyone how you actually feel.......HUH!? I most certainly do; again, my trauma team got that sorted.