Not sure where to put this...

My wife was devastated more than 20 years ago when our daughter (DD) was diagnosed with autism. Wife had such great hopes and expectations for DD prior to that DX.

I'm very proud of DD. She earned a BA in (not sure what) and now is working with Special Needs children. And she's such a humane and compassionate person, with many talents.

DD has been living with a trans woman, "Partner". They met through Tinder. Partner also is very kind, sensitive and very clever. But she has schizophrenia, and I've noticed a few occasional unreal thoughts.

Partner called last night and nervously asked if they could get married. They were looking for our blessing.

I'm very happy that DD is not alone. My only concern is that she is Partner's caregiver, which can be stressful.

My wife is beyond upset. To her, DD is a disappointment, and "Partner" is...

Anyway I feel that my happiness for DD and Partner makes my wife even more upset. At this point I should be honest and confess