So my sister and I have never really gotten along. But after my parents passed she said all the time that I was wanted and needed in her life. That my nephew missed me. Blah blah blah. I was cautious but thought she had changed. That was until a few years ago, where she dropped me like a hot potato. In the run up to it I suspected she wanted to leave her husband and come live with me but I told her no. Then, never heard from her again.

No invite to xmas, birthday, never a word for years. No concern during covid. Nada. Didn't tell me someone I knew and cared about died.

So fine she was cut out of my life.

But something legally made it so I had to contact her. This was very good for her but I couldn't get what I was going to get unless she did too. The first phone call was very rude. So clearly she was still in mode. But once she learned something great would be coming her way.... she was more cooperative.

So yesterday, she literally texts me about did I know what happened to a relative?

First, one, what is this? You stop talking to me for 5 years and now you're are going to act like we are buddies? NO thank you. I didn't respond.

Secondly, another thing...she is obsessed with the misfortunes and drama of my relatives. One of the previous sticking points between us is that most of my relatives are ... how can I put this.... toxic people. Low value people. They smoke dope, they scam, they live off handouts and government and they are not people you want in your life. And they have constant misfortunes. That are 100% their own doing. My uncle literally died of gangreen because he preferred sugar to life and didn't leave us anything in the will though my brother cared for him at the end. Yet my sister is always concerned about them.

What about me? You know... your sister? Why do you care about everyone else in the family but me? Why should care about some distant relative when you haven't even allowed me to see my nephew in 4 years.

My aunts son was diagnosed with lung cancer. Yes it is sad, but he smoked his whole life and he worked construction type jobs. It was not unexpected. This were his choices. Most of my extended family lives this way. They ride motorcycles and get in accidents and then I am supposed to feel for them that they are almost crippled. I don't do those things. I purse things that will just be very good for my sister even though she doesn't deserve it.

At some point I will have to meet up with her for this legal thing. I don't want to. I hope she doesn't try small talk or I will tell her off right there.