It’s a tough situation, and I think Rive is very wise about your wife needing support to grieve.

I married someone my parents didn’t approve of, we’re still together after 30 years. We’ve had challenges, and some of my parents misgivings were understandable. But ultimately I was an adult and made my own choice.

I’ve got to add I’ve known many other people who were on the face of it a more conventional match, and they’ve since split up.