Alcohol addiction destroys relationships. Addicts go through mood swings and they get worse over time. These individuals often develop a problem in late teens and early twenties so they do not develop maturity and tend to struggle with emotional issues and even depressive episodes.
These individuals tend to live in denial and can exhibit different narcissistic behavior patterns. They can black out and even turn mean and angry. Sex is not loving and intimate but more of a selfish self gratifying act often part of the drinking or other drug use.
It’s not wrong to have your dream of having something healthier. Individuals that develop alcoholism don’t hold down jobs or relationships for very long. Often these things only last for 6 months to a year.
That is no way to live and can do a lot of emotional damage.