Thanks @Open Eyes and @unaluna. I think he’s used alcohol as a way to cope with depression and anxiety. He isn’t ever mean or outright abusive. Our sex life used to be great. It wasn’t until the plans to have a baby that there were major problems and he tried to hide drinking from me. So I went from drinking with him to quitting(while trying to conceive)to feeling cheated on and betrayed by his drinking. I guess I was a fool and should’ve known.