I will say as a child I really loved getting away from family & visiting my grandparents half way across the country. At the end of 3 months there I wasn't happy to go home but I was also glad to get away from their dysfunction too. My parents were clueless that their own dysfunction was what drove me away from them & probably into my own dysfunction trying to compensate for what I grew up around. We always see others as the dysfunctional ones while not clearly seeing it in ourselves too