So I decided to emotionally detach from my husband due to his drinking. Yes, we are still living together, but I want to be committed to this detachment. For those who say I should move out - it’s not that simple, due to custody I share of my kid with my ex.

Has anyone attempted anything like this before? I know it’s far from ideal, and painful. My husband’s parents are detaching as well, and I’ll be trying Al Anon with them soon. In just the last day I have listened to podcasts and read a lot of stuff. From recovering, to emotional blackmail, to codependency. And I realize that my relationship wasn’t just affected by alcohol, but that we both are extremely codependent. I’m reading ‘Codependent No More’ by Melody Beattie, and I just started but it already sounds like it’s speaking to me.

Here’s my thoughts on detaching:

Don’t talk about our relationship
Don’t talk about drinking
No physical contact
Sleep in separate rooms
Don’t share activities other than eating meals
Be pragmatic
Don’t ask any help

I also need to think of things to do by myself. Going on a walk, reading, and I was even considering going to the movies alone. Any tips/suggestions are appreciated. ♥️