Scarlet, I had some issues with this, too. I had an agreement signed to allow ex-T and ex-MC to speak about me. Ex-T would always ask, like, "is it OK if I tell [then-MC] about x?" and if I said no, she wouldn't. I mistakenly assumed that ex-MC wasn't telling her stuff. Then, around when we terminated with him, he mentioned, "Oh, I often filled ex-T in." It made me feel betrayed--I though ex-T would have mentioned it?

There was another time where I guess I'd allowed ex-MC to communicate with Dr. T, though very limited. I thought when I stopped seeing ex-MC, that expired. And then, when I emailed ex-MC about something, he BCCed Dr. T in his reply. I only found out because I said something to Dr. T about his response, and he said, "Oh, yeah, he replied yesterday afternoon, right?" And I was like, "I'm sorry, what? How did you know that?" So I then revoked that privilege.

There was also a time when Dr. T told then-p-doc about something going on with me (I'd given permission), and she kind of interrogated me on it in the next session, which upset me. I think I then ended there ability to talk, after telling Dr. T it bothered me that he hadn't let me know.

There's also an option on the forms to say they can only communicate about a very specific thing. So you could possibly only let your p-doc and L communicate about your medication, for example. Or just remove their ability to communicate entirely, if that will feel better.