I hear it everywhere, and it absolutely infuriated me. You might know the feeling of being insulted and the same person who insulted you denying it. There are at least three different ways they’ll defend themselves:

1. They’ll say “I never called you a/an X”. For example if someone calls you a h** and assumes you’re throwing yourself at a guy you like and then when you get angry, they’ll reply “why are you being a b****?”.

2. They’ll say “I said it in a good way” or “it’s just a compliment” or “can’t you take a joke?”. Even if you dare call them out in that, they’ll just reply “see? You just proved my point”.

3. They’ll justify it and back it up with irrelevant details regarding you and/or your relationships. For example:

Them: “why are you such a b****?”

You: “why would you call me a b****?”

Them: “because you ARE a b****!”

You: “I only said/did/wanted X!”

Them: “oh really? You say that, but you really want Y! And you treat me like s***!”

You get the picture. Anyway, that’s all I have to say.