@Rose76 Yes, he pays the bills and I am living comfortably at his house that he owned before we got together. He isn’t sticking me with any debts from drinking. I have learned to not engage in conversation when he isn’t sober. It’s painful when that happens so I tend to be silently angry for a while, and get some distance between us for a while. I find myself talking to him when he is sober, which is nice. We have hugged(his hugs are too long but I let him) I just am withholding all other forms of intimacy right now. A part of me wants more but he isn’t getting it right now. It seems like a slippery slope to me.