That makes emotional sense to me.

I don't know if it's similar, but I have a hard time reaching out to L for extra sessions or phone calls. She is always telling me that she wants me to ask for what I need and want, that it helps her be able to be there for me. I have a hard time because I don't want to be a burden, so I try to be good/small. I think it's my abandonment fears. Better to have a little of her than to ask for too much and then lose her.