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Embracingtruth
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Default Jun 27, 2024 at 07:23 AM
 
What we have here is a moment where you need to execute some personal standards and quit letting him dictate terms. Let's cut through the semantics of what he said and just measure his actions. Words are often the cheapest, most abused commodity in a relationship. Here we have a person who has known you only a couple of months and through his sweet talk, he has managed to "test drive" you in bed, yet he's out there likely testing driving others, handing them the same line. Well isn't that convenient? I don't consider that "fair" on any level. You're in a crowded bed with a guy who understands how to placate a person by telling them sweet nothings while he moves on to someone else to essentially say the same thing. He identified you as a person that had emotional needs so he used lines like he "never felt so good" to pull you in. After he had you emotionally hooked, he started building up your self esteem with sexual innuendo to see what you would offer, He was really bold to jump far out and suggest a three way. That's why he quickly backpedaled because he knew he had moved too quickly. Please... dump this clown.

There is absolutely nothing transparent or upstanding about this con artist. He is there to simply take from you with empty promises and cute lines of affection to keep you tethered until he moves on. You need to build up some personal standards for yourself, starting with where and when you allow a person to have intimacy with yourself. He got to you with words over a short period of time. He never had to demonstrate the value or authenticity of those words. Also never let someone dictate what a relationship "means". YOU decide what someone means over the course of time as their actions back up their words. Allowing words alone will always lead to disappointment and sadness.. Anyone worth their salt, is going to stand by their convictions. And caring for someone is not a weekend hobby where they have to "think about it".

Always remember... you only control YOURSELF. So guard that front door to your castle that holds your identity and heart. Someone who cares about you is going to put in the time to get to know you and RESPECT your space. If they are not meeting that standard, there's nothing for you to ask of them. You already have your answer. Its not for them to give to you. Its for you to accept what is already obvious. The next time this guy comes knocking, tell him you have moved on and don't require his presence any further. "Later" came too late. (; Believe in yourself and leave these clowns behind. You deserve better. Protect yourself and pick your own direction.
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