Thanks all, for the responses. They all sound so reasonable and like this should be straightforward and easy. I don't know why I can't make it so.

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I'd follow up your email with a phone call at this point

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">That seems logical, but no, I can't call him. He is off work until Monday, so wouldn't get the message until then at the earliest. He often doesn't answer his phone messages for several days anyway, so it is just too late. The legal meeting is early next week and I needed to discuss this topic before then. I had all this week to get a session with him but I didn't. So it's just too bad for me. Thwarted again. It would have been so helpful. It is just a hard topic to bring up. Now the window of opportunity is past. It won't do me much good to discuss this later, after the meeting. As for emailing him again, he doesn't check emails when he is not working, so the soonest he would see it is Monday, and that is too late. Plus, I never email again if I have not received a response. He received the email and knows I wanted a session. I do not respond unless he does. I'm not going to nag, plus there is no time for a session now, so there is no point to emailing.

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I think at this point I'd have to turn the tables on him and ask him why he seems to be feeling resistance to this topic.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">ECHOES, when I emailed him I asked him for a session this week to discuss an important topic before the meeting. I did not tell him what the topic was so he doesn't know. He is not so fixated on the divorce now, so I felt I could have brought this topic to session and he would have discussed it. If I could have gotten a session... He just didn't want me to have a session this week, or wasn't able to give me one, for whatever reason--maybe he went out of town unexpectedly. Who knows.

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You may need to be bold, but remember - you're in charge! It's your right. Your therapist is your employee during your session time. If you're not discussing the topic you think needs to be discussed, then you need to change the topic.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I thought I was being bold by asking for a session to discuss this important topic. If I could have gotten a session with him, I definitely would have discussed it. Oh, well.

I'm kind of fed up with the whole thing. The bottom line is T let me down. I don't like that. He will be at the meeting next week so I'll see him then, then later in the week I have a session. Seriously, I know it is acting out, but I am tempted to cancel the therapy session. I've never done that, but I feel if he can't be bothered to answer my email and give me a session when I say it's "important" (I have NEVER said that to him before and I am not the sort of person who cries wolf), then I can't be bothered to show up for therapy with him next week. If he mentions the email at the meeting and has an excuse (a d*mn good one), then all will be well. My prediction is he will not mention it, perhaps just for professional reasons. (He is not my T at the meetings, so that would be mixing roles.) I just feel really let down--I expected better from him. He is just a hired gun, after all, and one that doesn't perform the administrative tasks of his job very well (answering emails, phone calls).

I know I am overreacting to this. I am tired and cranky after a long day, hosting a big party, preparing food for everyone, making small talk with strangers (very taxing for an introvert), cleaning up, etc. In this state, I am more upset about everything, including this T thing. I hope I will be able to put this into perspective after a good night's sleep.