Thanks, Lost. Yes, it would be nice if they were simpler and predictable. A calm in the storm of outside life. But of course, they're human, too. And have their own outside lives.

I do think that some upheaval in therapy has helped me deal with it better in my outside life--I prefer that term to "real life." As "real life" kind of implies that therapy isn't "real." Certainly some of the ruptures have ultimately led me to be better at handling conflict (particularly the repair portion), though I wish some hadn't happened (the "love" one jumps out).

I'm sorry you're dealing with this upheaval, too.