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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I don't know. When L's text message didn't go through, I wanted an apology and empathy for having to struggle through that. L did nothing wrong. It wasn't her fault the text didn't go through. Well, she could have checked to make sure it goes through. Anyways, how was she to know. She still gave me an apology and empathy. Apologies don't always have to mean someone did something wrong or were bad. They can be empathetic and understanding. That's my opinion at least.
Eta: Oh! My point: you can be angry at someone even if it's not their fault.
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I understood what you meant, Scarlet! And I understand your still wanting that from L--and am glad she gave it to you.
I do feel like Dr. T has been giving me empathy through this. And he's been apologetic. Though today specifically with the time change, over text, he was very much "it's unavoidable" (he said that twice), which sort of felt like he was avoiding taking any responsibility for it--when none of this would be an issue had he not decided to move in the first place. So overall, he is responsible. (I still feel like he should have investigated the permit thing, too.)
But he seems to feel bad for how much this is all affecting me and is doing his best to accommodate me. Like he said he was able to figure things out so we can actually meet next Friday (though I had mainly been concerned about that if he'd had to spend two other days that week moving, which seems unlikely now).
I think just his listening to me and not getting at all defensive really helped, too. He made it feel safe to talk about those feelings.