Oh! I forgot to mention Lost. "I'm right here" or "I'm here" pissed me off so much when L was on leave. And I told her. No she wasn't! She literally was not there where I needed her to be. In spirit is nice, but it's not being here. Maybe a better phrase would be "I'm there for you" as in "I support you". Even then, if she was really there for me she would make more of an effort. That's my opinion anyways.
Yes, our rituals are a crucial part of my relationship with L. Like we almost never diverge from it. We have a ritual for everything. Entering and exiting the building, too. We have rituals when I freeze. It can be annoying at times, but it also makes things safe.