Hi everyone,
Thank you so much for this wonderful place of helping each other

I am a very anxious person by nature, so I'm kinda used to it. But this new conflict raised the bar higher. I never had sleep problems before, struggling to fall asleep, having nightmares about this. This the first thing I think about when I get up and the last when I go to bed.

I started a music project fifteen years ago, and I'm blessed to be a full-time pro musician from the day I left school. This requires abviously luck, but also lots of sacrifices : working 60+ hours/week, never having week-ends or holidays, not earning a lot of money so I live in a not-very-confortable tiny apartment, etc, you see the point

I hired some pro musicians to perform live with me since many years. They've becomed very close friends, even a family, and I think they feel the same about me. We lived so many adventures together.
They are obviously paid each show they perform, as we split revenues in equal parts. And then, 7 or 8 years ago, I introduced the fact to pay them 10% of my merch revenues too. It was meant to thank them and motivate them to keep engaged in this career.
Let me precise that they all have a standard 9-5 job, paying way more than what I earn doing full-time music, and I am still doing 95% of the career work by myself (find shows, negociate, organize, administration, compose, arrange mix, record, social media, etc... ) - the only thing they do is learn the songs and perform them live.

2 years ago they came at me together to renegociate, to get more from the merch. We argued so much. To me it was like this generous move transformed our relation in a boss-employee relationship.

We finally had an agreement to give them 15% only if the performance budget goes under a certain amount, to assure them to be paid a fair part at every show.

But now, they want to renegociate again.
I have said all my arguments. I am doing 95% of the music career job, I am full-time musician while they have good 9-5, I earn less money than they make. I can't make them see that I am not their boss trying to keep money from them. If they want more from this activity, I could delegate them some work I have, but no, they want more money without doing more stuff.
When they see big money, like thousands of sales in merch at shows, they might just become greedy from that sight. They don't seem to get that this money has so many cuts before going in my pocket (fees, taxes, their share, etc) and then, I have to live up to 6 months without any shows meaning any revenues, from this money.
Their arguments are : "I don't feel like we're only doing 10% of the work", which makes no sense.

I am so sick of this. I am seeing this as a strong lack of respect of what I am doing. I can't help but feel like they want to suck every hard-earned money from me. We already split equally every show money, from opportunities that I'm spending full-time searching and negociating.

Am I overthinking all of this ? What should I do ? Am I totally wrong ?

I work 100% of the time, can't get any pause, this is the life I chose. But this conflict gives me sense of hopelessness. Art life is already so hard to fight for, I don't want to have to fight my buddies too along the way.

Thank you so much for reading me.