These days it’s my experience that just about anything goes when it comes to funerals. I’ve noticed a big shift the last 10 years or so. More and more people are either doing direct cremation or family only. What ‘others’ think or expect is being given less weight.

My uncle had a traditional funeral but afterwards my cousin disappeared, he wasn’t at the wake afterwards. He’d gone to a special place he and my uncle had liked to visit.

No, you’re not wrong, and if anyone thinks you are who are they to judge?