I’ve been to Al Anon meetings in the past. I attended regularly for over a year to give it a fair try. I might try it again.

There’s a lot of community in music. I’m just thinking about it.

I’ve said stuff about off-roading and working on cars on here in the past . I’m not a beat-mother-nature-into-submission person.

Off roading was always more about adventure, exploring, being prepared, and being creative enough to get back if you got into trouble.

It was always a stress reliever because it demanded my attention

Similarly, martial arts demanded my attention

I had to quit stressing and ruminating and be in the moment or things were going to get bad.

I think music offers a chance for community, and a requirement to be mentally present.


I’m still in my head today. I mentioned talking to my brother about compassion. I see my wife as this injured, damaged soul who won’t ever see her own contributions to her situation and who probably won’t ever have peace. Her connections with people will become more shallow over time. And she’d pull us all down with her on her way down if she could.

That’s the dissonance between thinking and feeling.