In my life experience, I find that "my place" is within me. Not connecting with family ( for any variety of reasons) is more common than you think. Between myself and two brothers, we grew up under the same roof, same parents, and had very similar life experiences in those formative years. But we each have very different accountings on what that environment looked like and how it made us feel. Quality of life has so much to do with how you process events in your life and how you allow things to weigh on you. We're all very different people no matter what shared space (or DNA) we might have in common.