Thanks for sharing this. I agree that it can be helpful to get other T's perspectives, especially in there's some sort of conflict or lack of understanding. In this case, R is more relationally oriented, so I figure she'll just naturally get it more easily. And maybe also help *me* to understand what I'm feeling better.

I have a lot of shame around some of these feelings, so if she can also make me feel more accepting of them, it would help as well. I have difficulty talking about things when I feel ashamed of them.

And for getting outside support in relationships in general, I think it's pretty common. Like talking to a friend or relative about a partner, or a partner about a friend/relative. Talking to your T about other people in your life. Or talking on here about our T's. No one is exactly the same or perfectly tuned into another person all the time, so it can help to get other perspectives, I think.