Yes, I think this was a lot of it. He normally seems pretty even-keeled (well, he has his moments), so it was a bit jarring to see. Which is also why I said a couple times, "I understand you probably really need a vacation right now." But in a way, that felt like my taking care of him. And I felt a bit wrong sharing how the sudden vacation/constant changes in move timeline were affecting me when he was dumping his stress all over the place.

And good point on your friends not saying they want to meet you for the financial benefit--now I'm picturing the check coming, you reaching into your pocket, and tossing kings and aces on the table instead of money or a credit card.