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Originally Posted by unaluna
 zoiecat
I had a few episodes like that 2nd point with my t. I was like, get that genie back in the bottle PRONTO! It was okay for me to WANT it, but really not okay for him to DO it.
I think it speaks to our wanting safe love from our parents, and their not being able to give it, due to their immaturity etc. So we try and try and try to bargain with them (is it like gambling?) but are disappointed when they try to fulfill their own needs at our expense. |
Yes, it's all very complicated. During the pandemic, for example, I liked that he was sharing more with me while also recognizing that it probably wasn't good for me overall. Part of me wanted to discuss it (and I eventually did), and part of me didn't want to because I was afraid he'd pull way back then.
I think with my parents--well, my mom, really--I just tried to please her and be the perfect kid until I couldn't anymore. I wanted her to love and accept me as I was, not her idealized version of what a person should be.