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SarahSweden
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Default Jul 11, 2024 at 04:01 PM
 
Thanks.

The point isn´t that I want her to share about her problems, it´s that she doesn´t support me when I do share about my problems or things that bother me like the contact with her colleague.

This has happened several times; when we stick to rather mundane subjects it works fine but when something happens in my life or together with some of her colleagues I´ve also seen, then she mostly changes subjects or just make comments like "we´ll se what happens" and similar. That isn´t supportive and that´s why I wrote I can´t know what´s ok to talk about and not. I can´t avoid certain subjects just to make her comfortable when talking to me.

The problem within this employment program, not just when it concerns me, is that they have gone from seeing people who were "just unemployed" to seeing people who are unemployed with physical and mental health problems. Then those problems inevitably is a larger part of people´s lives and you expect those who work with us to be able to support and talk about those more difficult subjects. By that I don´t mean long sessions or therapy but to be able to discuss things like I described about the meeting with her colleague.

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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
She maybe didn’t want to ask you about your summer plans in case you aren’t comfortable answering. If you want to share, you could.

It’s ok for people to do casual chitchat. It would be inappropriate for her to share her problems (except maybe in context). It doesn’t mean you can’t share your problems in regards to job/training. It doesn’t suppose to be reciprocal. When I go to doctors etc I tell them my problems, I don’t expect or want for them to share their aches and pains. It would be kind of insane. I don’t care to know.

The fact that she doesn’t talk about her problems is irrelevant. You are her client, not the other way around.

She probably can’t help with health issues. I’d see a doctor about those. But you can share health issues in relation to job search like you feel anxious and scared of work with people or something (just an example).
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