I think it’s contradictory. On one hand you don’t like that she acts in a more casual manner than normal case worker. On the other hand you were the one asking her to meet you outside of office due to your anxiety.

Perhaps molinit is right that even though you wanted to meet elsewhere and have coffees in parks and cafes, case manager should not have agreed to it.

I understand that you want her to respond to you in a more personal manner. But she already does way more than is required or appropriate. Being even more personal could cause her her job.

I understand you want her to be even more personal. What you want of her isn’t happening. Isn’t going to happen. Things don’t always happen the way we wish.

Maybe follow Molinit suggestion of changing case manager. If you are anxious about meeting in the office, maybe online virtual meetings are appropriate.

PS I am not sure what you mean by her “creating situations”. It’s ok for you to share that you didn’t like meeting someone. And it’s ok for a case manager to ask you questions (maybe she wants you to practice self advocacy). The issue is that you wanted her to agree with you and respond in a certain way. But it’s not going to happen.
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