T isn't one to judge another person who she doesn't know. I don't think she's ever judged ex-T and even when I consult with her about L, she focuses her response about me and what I can do. She always keeps a positive attitude (which can be annoying sometimes).

L has judged ex-T. She says things like ex-T makes her angry that she couldn't handle her own transference. Or that I can slam a door with her and she won't get mad. I never thought she was insulting me by being with ex-T for any amount of time. I think she was just validating my experience. She doesn't know very many positive good things from ex-T, but that's because I wasn't able to hold onto any after ex-T left. L does encourage me to talk to T when I'm having a hard time. And she wants me, one day to try to work things through with J.