I have my T I can call, that usually actually helps, just as an actual human connection. I have clear rules and I know it's never inappropriate within those, that helps, just clear boundaries around that sort of contact.


Other than that, I understand the thought it's pointless to reach out to helplines and such. I have used this kind of service exactly once (found out T had cancer and didn't want to reach out to anyone in my life). It was as you described them helping me come up with plans of what to do, not actual support or even some relief. But I didn't feel it was me claiming defeat, I was able to reach out to someone where I knew I could somehow get some form of coping thing met. It helps to just be listened to sometimes. It doesn't fix anything, but it helps to get through the time until I can see someone.