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Default Jul 16, 2024 at 08:15 AM
 
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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup View Post
Thanks all of you.

I too think it's a bit weird on some hand, I am sure normal T would never agree to such a thing. On the other hand, it's not about "understanding" or "observing" anything, it'd be more something like exposure, just that other people are around. I'm still thinking about it, I don't think boundaries would be a big issue in this case given the circumstances (sorry for being vague, I don't really feel comfortable sharing more). But thanks for all your input!

Edit: for what it's worth, the forensic T gave a similar suggestions when I first saw him, so it seems it'd at least be kind of ethical (that guy is a walking ethics board if I've ever seen one).

So, if it's something like eating in a restaurant, where you and T would be eating, and the social aspect is just that there would be other people around you, that seems fine. In fact, ex-T suggested doing something like that with me when I first started seeing her (as I have some anxiety about eating in public). She always seemed pretty ethical.

Or if it was something like a court appearance where you'd be very anxious, and it would help to have your T there to as moral support, I could see that, too. Or, say, a dissertation or thesis defense, where it might help to see him in the audience.

From what you said about the conflicts, I thought it was more of, say, a family or professional gathering where you'd know many or all of the other people. That seems more complicated to me.
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