@Rasberrytorte
Has your H tried any natura remedies for anxiety - acupucture, exercise, massage, herbs like chamomile, aromatherapy such as lavendar,? Fish oil too helped me some. None of these are a cure all but they lessen anxiety as well as avoiding alcohol.

Acupuncture is awesome if you have insurance that helps with it and can afford it. I wish we could afford it again, but my medical bills have eaten up so much money we can't. Plus our cars are very old - one 30 yr., the other 20 yr. and soon I fear there will come a day when the mechanic just can't fix them anymore and we have to invest in a good used car. And even used cars are expensive!